a change of seasons

If ya got it, flaunt it.

Being the psychology major that i am, i decided to run a little experiment today. What possessed me to do this? I dont really know, i guess out of sheer bordem, and another attempt for me to figure out the quite disturbing mind of a male lifeform.

Today i decided to go out, so while i was getting ready i did something that is completely not who i am. See- a couple years ago (4 to be exact) I used to dress really differently. I was really into fashion to find out the world of fashion is incredibly shallow and wrong. I had tons of those trashy magazines and dressed in pretty skimpy clothes, when I felt convicted of it and i started to dress a lot more modestly. My experiment today was to see what would happen if I wore clothes that i normally dont wear on a regular basis. It really wasnt as drastic as im making it sound, but for me it was. Normally i wouldnt wear stuff like this in public, maybe its just been so long that it just feels awkward, or maybe its not even that bad. I wore a little tank top (this one exactly )

and a pair of jeans. I did my hair real nice and was on my way to target and the mall to go shopping. Now i've been to these places before and i did not attract this much attention to myself. Why was there this new found attention? Was it because i was showing more skin then usual? As the day went on i tried to figure out why girls even church going Jesus believing women wear next to nothing on a regular basis.

My conclusion: Self-Esteem.Girls like attention. Girls especially like attention from guys.With this attention they recieve, their confidence grows larger, their self image and self esteem also grows. One of my fancy schmancy psychology books defines self esteem as "a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect." So can i form a theory that girls who dress skimpily are laking self respect? If girls dont even respect themselves, what makes them think a guy is going to respect them?

Whats wrong with this you may say? Well its a condition of the heart really. Where is your confidence coming from? Who is giving it to you? If girls need to wear next to nothing to make themselves feel better, and to draw unnecessary attention to themselves from guys, they are missing out on who they are in Christ. Getting attention from guys makes girls feel better about themselves and feel a lot more confident then usual. Its true cause going on through the day I felt more confident knowing that i was getting attention from guys. Why is this wrong? Because guys just arent looking to check out your cute shirt. Most of the time they are having lustful thoughts. God should give us our confidence, not some sleez-ball guy from the mall who doesnt really care about anything else but our bodies!

In a book called For Young Woman Only (every girl should read it..please!) the woman authors take polls from random guys ranging from the ages of 14-25, Christian and non Christian. They talk about clothes and the battle guys have to go through to keep their mind pure.
A poll was taken on an scenario of a really attractive girl going to the front of the classroom to write on the chalkboard, dressed in a mini skirt and tank top from A&F. The question was "if you're not careful, would there be a possibility that you would picture her naked either now- or later?"
46% of them said Yes, possibly
39% of them said Yes, defiantly
only 15% of them said no, it would never occur to them.

As women we dont understand the battle that guys have to go through everyday because we dont have to deal with it. I've heard a lot of girls saying "well its not my fault if guys cant control themselves" well ladies, sorry but it is your fault. Clearly the Bible says "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." If its our fault that a brother in the Lord stumbles, then we are held accountable for their thoughts. I feel bad for guys with all the images on tv, magazines, billboards...everything really. its like they cant escape it. The least we can do as christian girls is to be modest and help them get some relief!

Plus the guys who only want you for your body, are NOT men you should even consider dating anyways- they are shallow and perverted.

Im not saying that being into fashion is wrong, i am saying dressing immodestly is wrong. I dont mean girls, that you have to go around wearing potato sacks, but you shouldnt go around looking well, like a whore. There are plently of cute styles in fashion that dont show everything off. "If you got it, flaunt it" mindset is wrong, and i am determined to break it.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

...His love is boundless